Confidence rarely disappears overnight.
It erodes slowly—under deadlines, feedback, missed chances, or the weight of trying to do everything right.
We once worked with a client named Marcus, a sharp manager promoted into leadership faster than expected. He told us, “I feel like I’m guessing all the time.” It wasn’t a lack of skill—it was the shock of being in new territory. In the therapy world it’s called The Imposter Syndrome.
Here’s how we helped him rebuild confidence from the inside out.
Step 1: Separate Fact from Fear
We asked Marcus to write down three recent wins, no matter how small. Then three places he felt unsure.
Seeing them side-by-side revealed that 80 % of his “confidence problem” often lived in perception, not performance.
When you list facts on paper, fear starts losing its authority.
Step 2: Borrow Evidence from the Past
We asked, “When have you done something this new before?”
He immediately named two earlier transitions he’d navigated successfully.
Confidence doesn’t always come from the current situation—it’s borrowed from your proof that you’ve figured hard things out before.
Step 3: Redefine What Success Looks Like
Early in any growth phase, progress looks messy. We reframed his goal from “look confident” to “act courageously.”
Confidence is the result of action, not the requirement for it.
Step 4: Build Micro-Trust
Every day for one week, Marcus committed to one small, visible leadership behavior—asking a tough question in meetings, giving quick recognition, ending his day on time.
By Friday, his tone had begun to change from “I’m guessing” to “I’m learning.”
That’s confidence in motion.
From the Coaches
At My Muto, we often see this dynamic—people waiting to feel ready before they move.
Our encouragement: act first, and let confidence catch up.
Each small act of courage compounds. That’s how trust in yourself is built and solidified.
Call to Action
Pick one area this week where you’ve been waiting to feel ready.
Take the first, smallest visible step anyway. Then take one more.